Opinions hold as much power as you give them...
When Life Gives You Lemons:
In the wild, animals survive as a cohesive unit. If a member gets cast out, the likelihood of survival exponentially decreases. Things aren't so different in the city. But, instead of physical survival, we deal with social survival. We tend to reach the greatest heights in our personal development with the help of countless individuals. No man is an island, after all.
Look at any one of your heroes: Pedro Infante, Cesar Chavez, Rosa Parks, Steve Jobs- these people were likely helped by parents, uncles, grandmothers, teachers, wives, etc.
Every single one of us offers a unique message, and it is valuable! We hold the power to become the next transformative person in human history. But, most of us never share our message, because we are too afraid to be cast out for saying the "wrong thing." So, we conform to a 9-5 job, get married, pop out a couple of kids, and let life wear us down so much that we are eventually left in a retirement home with that message still buried deep within our hearts.
Here is the great secret: the important people in your life are mostly interested in your unique perspective! This is can be a tricky balancing act. If you are in school, or at a job, it is your teachers or bosses opinion of your work that will determine if you get awarded that A, or that 5k salary increase.
However, when we focus on the validation of those that seemingly hold power over us, we loose sight of what is truly important...OURSELVES! It is our teacher/boss' interpretation of how we carry ourselves, within our own lane, that will determine how much they are willing to help us in our endeavors. Authenticity is key!
It's true that other people's opinions can sometimes be helpful. But, it is up to you to decide which opinions are helpful to your growth, and which are not.
NOTE: Remember that people will offer you guidance from their specific perspective. Something that worked for them may not work for you. Use the exercise below to help you learn how to let your intuition be your guide! Your intuition will guide you far better than the opinion of others.
Here is a great exercise to help you to stay in your lane, as you being to connect with your inner compass:
1. Close your eyes, and take 3 full breaths with the intention of reaching a relaxed state of mind.
2. Think of something/someone that lights you up to the core. And, say to yourself, "I LOVE______!" Be as specific as possible. Say it several times, and scan your body for reactions and/or feelings that emerge.
3. Think of that same thing/person, and say to yourself, "I HATE______!" Say it several times, and scan your body for reactions and/or feelings that emerge.
You should begin to notice a difference in your bodies reaction to these two statements. And, you will be learn to disseminate truth from non-truth. The only truth that really matters, is your own.
This exercise will help to set up your inner compass in a way that will align you in the best direction for your soul's growth!
Opinions can be helpful. But, your ability to choose what is best for you, will become your greatest source of strength as you journey through life!
Amor y Canela